2 Corinthians--a Very Misunderstood Epistle

Many commentaries focus on Paul's defense of his ministry. Paul's main purposes have little to do with defending his ministry. The most common themes are: 1) reconciliation--between us and God, between fellow believers within the church, and between Paul and the Corinthians; 2) exhortation to ministry--Paul has been steadfast and uses his example to spur the Corinthians to look beyond their petty squabbles and reach out to the world, no matter how difficult it will be, because we have God and the rest of the world needs to be in relationship with Him. Be bold, be brave, get out of the pew!

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Pastor, Are You on Your Own?

There are some disturbing statistics quoted in Dr. Henry Cloud's book The Power of the Other: The Startling Effect Other People Have on You... He describes situations in which executives and other leaders often can't share their difficulties. For a variety of reasons, we don't talk with others about what's bothering us:

  • it's inappropriate to talk with staff members about other staff members; in a church, it's not appropriate to talk with a parish member perhaps
  • we avoid appearing vulnerable, frail and burned out; we have to appear strong and lead past others' insecurities, fears and uncertainties (a beacon/statue on a hill if you will)
  • we want to appear to have the answers and the solutions rather than ignorance, ambiguity and doubt
  • in moments of our own insecurity, we don't want the appearance that we've been a fraud all along
  • it appears risky to talk with board members (or Staff Relations Committees) who have the decision-making ability to maintain our employment
  • others who haven't experienced the pressure of leadership don't understand with what we're struggling 
  • other leaders are seen as competitors and could take advantage of any perceived weakness
  • other leaders aren't trustworthy to keep confidence
  • no time to explain the whole history and set of circumstances that create the sleeplessness and anxiety


Perhaps you have your own reasons. I'd love to hear them. I'd also love to hear if you can talk to your board members about your struggles. What about your peer councils? How often can you share the really big issue that keeps you awake at night?

When we can't share, these issues may fester inside us and come out as anger, addictions and other unhealthy situations. Here's the stats:
  • 80% of us don't have a place to be 100 percent honest and vulnerable about struggles, conflicts, needs and weaknesses
  • 80% of us don't have anyone or a group totally committed to our growth and well-being as a leader
  • 80% of us in the last year admit to having 'burnout, loss of energy, difficulty getting motivated, concentration or focus problems, anxiety or stress, depression, addiction or other habit, sleep problems, etc.' at a significant level that could be treated clinically.
If you fall into one of these situations, please find a trustworthy person who's in your corner. Get a solid relationship that can help you be grounded. And give your spouse a rest who may be your one confidante at this time.

A business coach can be helpful. A well-designed peer council can be helpful. You might consider an advisory group from outside the church to be open with. (We're pulling for you...contact us at 4wardassociates.com )

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